The Ladies Junction (English)

The title of this blog might seem a bit strange. You must be thinking, "What kind of struggles does a person have to face after becoming successful?"  It is a common misconception people have in their minds about successful people. They think that after the achievement of success, one lives in total happiness and joy.  Well, for the most part, this is not true. Especially not for those who want to stay successful.  We all know that fame and fortune don't stay linear. Every person faces lows and highs in his lifetime.  Still, people who want their glory to stay stable are always doing some struggle.  This is because they not only create a specific image in the minds of people close to them but also in people with whom they have not acquainted themselves.  Among these well-wishers, some envious people also exist, hiding behind the mask of a friend, acquaintance, or relative.  They are those who keep waiting for successful people to make a wrong move in t...

Maybe not a lot, but it must be in your knowledge that colors affect our personality and mood to some extent.  In some professions, people have to wear dresses of a particular color.  A doctor wears a white coat, and a lawyer wears a black one. Indian policemen wear clothes in khaki color. After a lot of research, researchers have proved that different colors affect our brains differently.  The same goes for our mood and how we perceive things. Pay attention, and you will be able to see that colors play a role in making us feel positively or negatively about things.  Let us learn more deeply about colors and see how different colors affect us differently - 1) Red - This color plays a huge role in boosting our morale and keeping us delighted. Dr. Briwer, a Psychologist at British Heart Foundation, researched approximately 1000 women to find that they wear red dresses and lipsticks to boost their confidence and feel good.  2) Black - This color represents the powe...

In this article, I want to say a few things about a huge issue surrounding the studies of children.  It is possible for many of my readers, who are parents themselves, to unknowingly not pay attention to this particular issue.  My experience with kids of this generation says that they tend to avoid writing by hand in their notebooks.  I don't think the corona lockdown is to blame entirely for this.  If we try being honest with ourselves, we will see from where the problem is actually coming. In this era of laptops and smartphones, kids find it easier to type things on their favorite gadget than write the same stuff in their copy.  Now, I am sure you know that this habit will not do them any good. It is important for children to read and write the things they learn over and over to improve in studies.  It is the duty of the teacher and the parents to make the little ones do these activities with help and encouragement.  As a responsible parent, you must...

On her first day at her in-law's place, Shobha sees her mother-in-law's unexpected appearance, which is unforgettable to her. On the day of Shobha's arrival at her in-laws, Shobha's mother-in-law got furious over something at her Devrani. The matter seemed very small to Shobha but not to her mother-in-law. Due to this, Shobha started keeping ill feelings toward her mother-in-law and became afraid of her. But, Shobha never faces her mother-in-law's anger. She was usually very nice to Shobha. Still, seeing her mother-in-law in that state of rage on her first day at her Sasural has put a deep impression on Shobha. This impression of her mother-in-law has made Shobha a person who keeps his feelings to himself. Similarly, a woman named Kalpana has got appointed as a teacher in a school. When she went to her class on her first day, she made kids terrified of her by yelling and scolding them throughout their study period. Now, even when children have doubts in class, they ...

Studies of children have been very much affected due to the prolonged lockdown imposed on the nation because of the coronavirus pandemic.  Online classes were being taken every day, but those classes didn't help children improve their academic performance. Amid lockdown, children also got themselves into control of online games, making their parents worried. Now, after the lockdown lifted, we can see things get worse. Schools are now being reopened, but many children aren't going to study in these schools. They are not able to do things they once did every single day.  Their immunity power has dropped, and so has their concentration power. Nowadays, kids don't even want to write in a notebook because they think it's too tiresome.  This is bad news for parents as well as teachers.  But, instead of worrying, we should do something to make kids love studying again. 1) In this lockdown, many people have seen their income go very low, because of which they are now doing l...

I have been seeing people do this for a long time, and you might have too and found this to be a bad habit. Some children are naturally good at some things, like- singing, dancing, comprehending what they study, etc. It is obvious to be proud of such things, I totally agree, but often parents stretch their children's talents way too far in front of others to feel superior.  Whenever a relative, a friend, or an acquaintance comes to their house, they start planning ways to bring up a topic that would help them show off their kids' talents. After that, they ask their child to come out and show how good he is at singing (or dancing, drawing, etc.) as if giving an order. If the child performs well, he gets all his parents' love showered on him. Opposite of that, if he doesn't perform well, he has to be ready to see his parents' wrath. Don't you think this behavior is toxic? I am going to elaborate on the harmful effects of this habit in the following points - 1) Whe...

Beware of the pricing game - You must have seen yourself getting tempted to buy things the seller presents at a "super" discounted price many times. Not all the time, but still, often these products not only come with a discounted price but also with a discount in quality. Always do some careful thinking by comparing similar products coming at different prices on the basis of the quality they offer before coming to a conclusion to ensure you buy the best at the best price. Read the product details before you buy - Reading product information is something you should always do when shopping online. This helps to understand the specifications of the product well. Unfortunately, many cases pile up every day where the consumer didn't check product details before buying and got something delivered he would have never ordered if he had shopped smartly. Buy from well-reputed stores - These days getting scammed is easier than you think. There are many deceiving websites on the web...

Woah! Mr. Sharma, your house looks wonderful! The interior is so classy. I've never seen anything like this before! Your son has become an engineer! That's amazing! Now you are going to get lots of dowry Mrs. Meena!  These are things that you also must have heard people say around you. Actually, this is an ideology most people can't resist. Most people, even if they read a thousand inspiring storybooks, innumerable quotes, and listen to various self-help speeches, can't keep themselves away from those tempting materialistic things. They are ready to give their all to satisfy their wants. Suppose there's a guy named Aarush who wanted to become an IAS officer and did whatever it takes to become one but still couldn't pass the entrance exam, which was the first step towards his goal. Now, instead of moving on with his life and finding a better purpose, he took this failure to heart and started cursing himself and his fate. As time passed, he started blaming his fam...

Ups and downs are common in every relationship. No relationship is perfect. Two people are bound to have differences and so, arguments are natural. But this doesn’t mean it’s okay to fight always. This breaks a beautiful relationship. It is important to know how to stay away from arguments for a better and healthy relationship. Here are some tips that will help you to avoid arguments in your relationship. Take a moment to calm your anger We tend to blurt out unwanted things when angry. Whenever you feel angry, take a moment to calm down and reflect upon the situation. Think whether the situation needs your anger or you can soothe it with calmness.. Speak up about your problems Don’t pile up things that upset you. Share your feeling and thoughts with the person you trust. Tell him or her what you didn’t like. If you don’t communicate and keep on piling things that stress you out, then one day those things will make you explode in anger and say things that you might regret later. Don’t a...

Do you tend to delay everything to the next day? Don’t worry. It is not only you; procrastination is almost everyone’s problem. The habit of procrastination can be due to several reasons: lack of concentration, bad time management, lack of interest, fear of failure.  It can also be due to obsession with perfectionism.  In this article, you will find some tips that will help you stop procrastination and get on the task you want to do.  STEP 1: Identify the task you generally postpone First, try to focus on all the tasks you have at a time; make a list.  After that, look at the tasks you tend to find uninspiring and cumbersome. Then, identify if the task you try to but cannot get done is some office work, household chores, or a conversation with a specific person.                                                           ...

There’s a general perception around quiet people that they are either unconfident people or extra cunning. There are very few who think of them as smart.  Through this article, I will tell you the positive aspects and benefits of being quiet.  If people respond to insult quietly, then they are labeled as weak and unconfident. However, many times these people are quiet on purpose; they are selective on when to talk, with whom to talk and how much to talk. They don’t want to waste time and energy on quarrels, so they prefer not to say. Psychologists say that quiet people are generally confident and have better concentration power. Being quiet sometimes will also help you get some time to talk to yourself in peace. You will be able to meditate on your thoughts and think clearly.  Nowadays people are so busy in life. This has made them irritated, and even trivial things trigger anger in them. Being quiet for some time can help bring down stress levels and calm down anger. Eve...

You have been advised to stay away from people who take advantage of the fight between two people. However many people fail to save themselves from them. Recently there was the same situation with my friend Aruna. She lives in a joint family of two brothers. They all live with love and cooperation.  One day, her mother-in-law got ill and was admitted to the hospital. The treatment was long and so the hospital bill was high. The four brothers decided to split the bill among themselves. However, her husband contributed little extra as he had more money in his bank account. One day, when all the family members were sitting together in the living room when in some conversation Aruna said that if it was not for her husband then it would have been difficult to save mother-in-law. Her husband got furious at her remark and scolded her. Slowly everyone got into a quarrel. On the same day, her elder sister visited her. On seeing her sad face she asked the matter. Listening to her she advised...

Flowers hold a very special place in our lives. They light up our mood with their beauty when we feel down. They make us feel fresh with their fragrance. They are the best gift one can give. This list goes on and on. Let's today learn how important flowers are in the lives of us humans - They help us release our stress and worries Research says that being around flowers can make a person suffering from mental stress feel relaxed and more connected to his surroundings. Flowers have the power to make our minds happy even in the toughest times of our lives. They have medicinal use Since ancient times, people have been using certain flowers for making medicines. Some flowers are medicines themselves! You must have heard the names of various flowers if you practice Ayurveda. They help us convey messages words can't to our loved ones We think of various ways to say things that mean a lot to us in the best way to people we adore. Sometimes, words don't seem enough to convey those ...

Leadership means leading people. It is one of the most necessary skills to have in life. Leadership has led to the progress of human civilization. It is one of the most crucial things to have for running such a big world.  However, not everyone has this quality.  To develop the qualities of a good leader, let us look at their most cherished characteristics - Self-confidence– It is one of the essential qualities of a leader. You can’t be a good leader if you lack self-confidence. You must have confidence in your decisions. If you show this, then only others will follow you.  Good Communication- It is a must skill for a good leader. Poor communication leads to disconnection. People might take things you said in the wrong way. Good communication will clear misunderstandings, convey the right message, and also help in making good relations. Honesty- It is another chief quality of a leader. Honesty and integrity are crucial to win the love and trust of followers. If you are im...

Purab was on his phone talking to a friend from Germany and had his earphones on. Her aunt had got hurt from the bedpost and fallen on the ground. She yelled at Purab for help but he didn’t listen to her because of earphones. Luckily her son came to the room in search of a ball and saw her lying on the ground. He went to the other room to call Purab for help. Purab after hearing about his aunt rushed to help her. He said sorry, then lifted her and gave her first aid. Later everyone at home got to know about the incident and scolded Purab for being busy on phone and not reaching for help on time. To be honest, in today’s digital world, it has become common to ignore people close to us and pay much attention and time to people on the internet. The Internet has indeed helped in bringing people far from us close. People have got some really good friends and connections online. It has helped us remove loneliness from our lives. However, it has also made people get away from people close to ...

We speak and listen to many words daily. However insignificant they may appear, they are actually very important and therefore we should speak carefully. Words like ‘yes’ or ‘no’ seem very small but carry much significance. It has the power to hurt or mend hearts. Many times people say yes to others without thinking much, and if they fail to do what they said then they face criticism. It is good to help others but it doesn’t mean that we say yes to their inappropriate things and leave our work and help them.  If you are not comfortable saying ‘yes’ then you need to learn to say ‘no’ sometimes, it doesn’t matter if the person is close to us. Because if you keep saying ‘yes’ despite being uncomfortable it will cause stress to you and affect your mental health. You have the right to say ‘no’ and also don’t always need to make excuses for your ‘no’. You should always set your boundaries. First, evaluate yourself whether you can do that work or not and if you can’t then there isn’t any ...

We all know that feeling, after a horrible fight, how we feel guilty for being so angry with the other person.  Thoughts like - 'It was not all his fault or, I shouldn't have gone on like that' - come to us after we get mad at someone and react in a manner that doesn't please anyone.  It's okay to feel angry sometimes. After all, it's a feeling just like happiness and sadness that comes naturally to us.  But it can be considered unnatural too. Let's discuss when it can be a problem and how we can know if our anger is getting problematic for us. To find out if you have anger issues, see if you tend to get irritated by even the smallest of mistakes and wrongdoings of others or even yourself. If you do, then it is a problem. Now let's see what we can do to fix this issue.  Try to see if there is something that is bothering you for some time. That something could be the reason for your intolerant behaviour that results in frustration and anger.  Whenever you...

We all have had the desire to become educated and noble human beings. To fulfill this desire, we enrolled ourselves in schools, colleges, and other institutions. Why? Because we think education can make us better at various things. It enriches our intellectual abilities.  Being educated or learned doesn't only mean you have the ability to read, write and understand stuff. It means you can also apply your acquired knowledge when needed. If you don't have this ability, you cannot consider yourself to be an individual who can lead others and himself for a better future in this fast-paced world.  Remember, your imagination and creativity are two things that make a difference in your life and others. We are humans, not robots, who don't have their own intelligence and only do what they're programmed to do.  Now, if you want to become more skilled at a task you already do, or if your wish is to learn something that's very new to you, you'll have to practice!  For exam...

Most of us love monsoon, don't we? It's windy outside, greenery on trees, and you're at your home sipping the ever so soothing ginger tea. Yes, everything seems great in this season, but there are a few we have to take care of in the monsoon.  People start having some skin and hair related problems that can make us worried. The reason for these problems is (in most cases) fungus. We become susceptible to fungal infections in this season, and you already know the reason for this. Now, let's take a look at how we can combat these problems - In this season, we get rashes and bumps after coming in contact with rainwater.  To stop letting this happen, we should always try to dry ourselves quickly and put on a preferred moisturizer. Also, wash your face often if it's prone to pimple breakouts. Some people find their skin to be itchy and sticky. This problem makes them feel uncomfortable, which results in frustration.  To get rid of the stickiness, try to exfoliate your sk...

Ok, so you must be aware of the importance of trees around us. Yet, many of you haven't surrounded yourselves with greenery. Many people still do not understand that trees are a part of our lives. As much as we need food and water, we also need trees in our lives to stay healthy and happy.  People cut them, sell them, make furniture and other goods with them for monetary gains. It is so sad that we do not think, even for a second, how cutting and killing trees is as bad and ruthless as killing any other animal. We should know that deforestation leads us to deal with many big issues like - soil erosion, abrupt climate change, less rain, etc. The evidence of their existence is far more ancient than that of us humans. Naturally, this tells us how we are so much dependent on them. They never expect to get anything from us, but we want them all the time. We can safely say that trees are one of the greatest givers in this world. The most significant thing they give us is oxygen by taking...