Are you showing off your child's talent in front of others?

I have been seeing people do this for a long time, and you might have too and found this to be a bad habit.

Some children are naturally good at some things, like- singing, dancing, comprehending what they study, etc. It is obvious to be proud of such things, I totally agree, but often parents stretch their children's talents way too far in front of others to feel superior. 

Whenever a relative, a friend, or an acquaintance comes to their house, they start planning ways to bring up a topic that would help them show off their kids' talents. After that, they ask their child to come out and show how good he is at singing (or dancing, drawing, etc.) as if giving an order. If the child performs well, he gets all his parents' love showered on him. Opposite of that, if he doesn't perform well, he has to be ready to see his parents' wrath.

Don't you think this behavior is toxic? I am going to elaborate on the harmful effects of this habit in the following points -

1) When you tell your child to perform suddenly without prior discussion, he gets nervous and fails to exhibit his talents well. 

Adolescents can deal with situations like this with some effort because they are older and know how to communicate. But, on the other hand, young children face a hard time dealing with such nerve-wracking situations where frequently they have to show what they have got in front of a stranger. They have no option other than to stay quiet. 

To make matters worse, when you throw up your anger on them, they become afraid to tell you anything good that happens to them. They stop telling you about things they want to learn. They stop telling you about the things they are slowly becoming good at, etc. 

Most kids start staying out of the house so they don't get pressured by their parents to meet a guest. 

Being a parent, it is your responsibility to understand and respect your child's feelings. Do not ask your kids to perform something they are good at in front of others if they don't feel comfortable or they are not ready.

Focus your energy on making your child more confident about his talents. 

2) Some parents also unknowingly develop jealousy, hatred, and low self-esteem in their children by praising one child more than the other, especially in front of other people. 

Try to be aware and avoid this kind of behaviour because it is detrimental to your kids' mental health. A seemingly small thing like this can cause significant issues in the future. 

3) If your child underperforms, try to understand his point of view too. Try to find ways to boost his confidence. A day will surely come when your child will be able to show his talents to the whole world without a push.